Well I don't use gear since I only started now... But I used to be the narrow minded side in this situation I have to admit. I wasn't really happy about the fact that my partner was using steroids... But that was because I had no clue about all that stuff. I don't know how much your partners are into bodybuilding and stuff, but is it possible that they just don't know a lot about it? You always just hear the negative stuff about it in the news and how it can fuck up your health... And I was the same. Didn't have a clue about it, just heard the bad things, so I was going off on a rant with him, because I was worried I suppose. Maybe it's a similar thing with your partners?